Two questions to ask yourself about your boyfriend!

Girls, this may sound weired, but believe me on my age old experience. :) This two questions can make or break your relationship for an ever ending whatever you want. Don't get me here? Well, the most difficult part is not asking these two questions but rather the answers and more importantly what you want the answers to be! I stress the word 'you' here! So if you have followed this far into this blog post I am sure you must be really curious to know what those two questions are? Well, they are, is your boyfriend spiritual? And is your boyfriend creative? Simple! Note as I have mentioned before, first and foremost you have to find the type you prefer, some may like spiritual and some may not like it, that is ok. By the way by spiritual I don't mean religious! At the same time some may like creativity while for others it may be a nuisance. So know what you like first and next ask the two questions to yourself. In reality what only matters is your perceptions of who your boy friend is, not what others think or he think. Wish you all an enlightening morning with these two questions to ask yourself about your boy friend.

All that is important is doing the right thing!

Every dream, every big dream pass through three stages. Just like a farmer who plant a seed expecting the fruit of the labor. First it is the wanting of the fruit. Next planting the seeds, watering, attention to details and taking care. Last watch them grow slowly and steadily until it is time to pick the fruit. How one want to satisfy beyond this is both objective and subjective, but every dream has to pass through these three stages.

In the real life first comes the vision, the imagination and the idea. Than comes the plans to realize the dream to a realistic way forward based on set goals. Next it is the time to act and here one needs a lot of patience. Patience does not mean doing nothing, but more of like playing along with the nature.

One such dream is in motion, something dear to my heart, important and personal. Call me a dreamer, a loner, crazy or creative or even spiritual, suit yourself for I don't care. Listening to my inner voice I know the dream is awakeing from it's slumber. Yes, I dare to dream, for I dream with my eyes open. At times I feel the "loneliness", but all that is important is doing the right thing.

I am in no pride to bare the wrath of God.

Are you sure of yourself and your actions? Are you mechanical or exercising your free will? Why do some long to be with me all through the night? I can come up with hundreds of reasons to why I value some feelings and some I forget! Even Sweeney Todd had his reasons! One thing is sure, with every demon that possessed, be it Bune, Asmodeus or Dantalion, we grow stronger after the fight. When we are in total darkness while the eyes are open, we can still find the light, if we can feel and reason. You don't need to evoke Choronzon to know id and ego and you don't need to be convinced like M. Scott Peck. If you know what I know, you will act as I do. No, I don't long for a grimore to succeed, for Maxwell's demon is acting in my favor, but I see myself longing for the unknown to guide my journey. It is not the voices of the Qareen for we are false friends. Nor that I long to seek the pleasures of malevolent Lilith. When Laplace's demon is clear, am I to rely on confirmation bias without seeking the truth? I don't want to fight to see if Satan was right and I am wrong, but as a mere slave of God, I am in no pride to bare the wrath of God.

Say goodbye to your empty wallet!

So they say we are in a recession, well do you want to learn how to be recession-proof? Is your economic status up to your wanting? Are you satisfied with your bank account? More importantly are you living to your satisfaction? Or are you happy being a multi-bikaaree?

Truth is, the real problem is not money, it is just a manifestation of a bigger problem? Just stop by to smell a rose to learn what really made you what you are today? Do you qualify to do that?

Well, simple facts of life! If you don't have a bank account, it cannot be zero! If you don't want what you cannot get, you simply don't need it! If you don't have a wallet it can never be empty!
Sense the real beauty and benefit of in helping one another, caring one another, looking after one another! The real brotherhood that we all only hear of, is the cure. So like the care-bears, say I care and all at once, say goodbye to your empty wallet!

Strip off your cloths in a cloth shop

Why do we wear cloths? To cover our nakedness? Well, that is a good enough reason but I guess it should be more than that! What we wear is a part of us, just look at a mirror if you need proof! What you wear makes you, an addition to how you want to be seen for and by others. But how many have this sense of style, a self projection of how you want to be seen with what you wear? Or how many wear what they really want to wear? This is not about money, but it is about style!

So next time when you go out shopping don't be afraid to try different styles on the mirror to see how it look on you! And remember that feeling when you strip off your cloths in a cloth shop!

So tell me, is there anything worth dying for in your life?

Dr. Martin Luther King said "If You've Got Nothing Worth Dying For, You've Got Nothing Worth Living For!" In a quest to find what people take worth dying for, I have being posing some questions to most of my friends. First I asked, would you die for your kid(s)? All without hesitation said yes! At least all of my friends said so! Next I asked, would you die for your partner? Most hesitated and those eventually said no! Than I asked, would you die for your Mum? Few thought about it for a few seconds and those few said no! I continued to ask, would you die for your Dad? Nearly all said no and very few said yes! Hmm, interesting... Next I asked, would you die for your country? All said no! What? Last I asked would you die for your religion? This question made nearly all of them to go into a deep thought, as if they wanted to say no but found it hard to say so! Eventually they did said yes, more or less like against their will! At least all had something worth dying for, giving them something worth living for!

Well, I believe what Martin wanted to say is not about dying but something way old, like Greek old. Where how much passion someone had in life was with what they were judged! It is not about how willing you are to throw your soul to death, more of the passion to fight for a cause, for a belief, for others and your betterment and for the world you live in. In this passionate fight are you willing to die or rather struggle if it calls for it! In this respect, without such a passion it is hard to stand up and keep going, to hurdle over obstacles and difficulties that life so like to throw at us. However today, when we say passion, it is more or less tangled with another, but a much volatile word called love and even sex for some.

If I am to give an example it would be like the passion Muslims had in the Golden Age, I believe the passion for God is something worth dying for! However the concept of Jihad as used now-a-days sound both stupid and confusing, I would not recommend it as worth dying! It is also like the passion Romeo+Juliet had, though it was only a play and I would never recommend it as worth dying! These example do not fit to our world now, in a way I want to convey it, as today the world has changed, the fights and struggles has changed! However, I believe we humans are still capable of attaining such passion and to do great things with it. I believe altruism is the key for such passion! So tell me, is there anything worth dying for in your life?

Who are you role modeling or imitation?

It is said that in life we learn from our mistakes. However, I have come to this epiphany that nobody, I repeat nobody, in my known life has ever learned from their mistakes. No wonder why people all around the world make the same mistakes over and over again. They live their life over and over again with the same habits and ideas. Falling to the same traps right after standing up. Some call it habits, some blame it on genetics, some go as far as blaming others. Truth is we humans are not meant to learn from mistakes.

So the question is how do we learn? When it comes to behaviour there is only one way that I trust to learn. We learn by imitation or by following role models. Sure we have trend setters and leaders. Even they are shaped by the same rules and only very few have enough will power and wisdom to break free and prove otherwise.

The saddest news is my country seriously lacks good role models! So who are you role modeling or imitation? Or may I say, who would you rather role model or imitate?

Four Stages of A Man's Life: Stage 03: Power

When you become a man of understanding power is inevitable. From loved ones, family, friends to employers will entrust you with power. With so much power bestowed to you it becomes a true test of yourself. You can tend to it or abuse it. It is normal to sway yourself in the mist of it. It is up to you to use this power for the greater good or to use it for your selfish needs. While in power there is only one person who knows everything you do and to whom you have to answer everyday. That person is you!

I still remember the day when I was entrusted by my employer to fire four of their senior staffs. They were old, incompetent and seen as a liability. Yes, I did convinced them to resign and retire for the greater good. On the other hand I remember the time when my boss wanted to fire two staff as my skills can easily replace them. As I was expensive the company could only afford either me or both of them. Looking at them, with kids and families to take care of, I decided to resign for the greater good. As I always intend to exercise my powers so I can peacefully sleep at night.

To be in power is a nice feeling but if you defy your powers and let go at will, then and only then, nature will bestow you the next stage of life, true wisdom.